Please .....

Please Listen


    When I ask you to listen to me

    And you start giving advice

    You have not done what I asked.


    When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me

    why I shouldn’t feel that way,

    You are trampling on my feelings.


    When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to

    do something to solve my problems,

    You have failed me, strange as that may seem.


    LISTEN ! All I ask is that you listen,

    Not talk or do, just hear me.

    Advice is cheap: 50 cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper.

    And, I can do that for myself; I’m not helpless.


    When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself,

    you contribute to my fear and weakness.


    But, when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational,

    then I can quit trying to convince you and get about the business of understanding what’s behind this irrational feeling.

    When that’s clear, the answers are obvious, and I don’t need advice.

    Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what’s behind them.


    So . . . . . . please, listen and just hear me. And, if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn; and I’ll listen to you.

Last Modified on August 22, 2017