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    Name:  Darlene Tate, M.Ed., LPC, NCC
    Phone: (817) 547-7080
    Student Assistance/Crisis Intervention Specialist
    Hope Squad Lead Advisor
     Darlene Tate





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    How to Deal with Grief During the Holidays

    The holidays can be the toughest time of the year.

    The swell of grief around the holidays is a common reason clients enter my  office this time of year. People often seek help for the immense sorrow that starts surfacing right around Thanksgiving.

    I experienced that wave of grief in my own life when my husband passed away. Christmas music, holiday parties, and festive decorations that were meant to bring joy, served as painful reminders of my loss. Like most people experiencing loss, the holiday season can be the most painful time of all.

    If you're wondering how to get through the holidays this year without your loved one, these strategies can help:

    1. Trust that Grief is Part of Healing

    Time doesn't heal the pain associated with a loss, it's what you do what that time that matters. Grief is the process by which you heal. Experiencing the pain-rather than constantly trying to escape it-can actually help you feel better in the long-term.

    So while it may be tempting to pretend the holidays don't exist-or to numb the pain with unhealthy coping mechanisms-temporarily avoiding the pain only prolongs the anguish. Eventually, the holidays will get easier, but only if you allow yourself to experience the grief of going through them without your loved one.

    1. Set Healthy Boundaries

    You certainly don't have to force yourself to face every holiday event or celebratory tradition, however. If attending a tree lighting ceremony or participating in the friends’ gift swap is likely to bring about too many painful memories this year, be willing to say no. Other people may try to convince you to participate, but you certainly don't have to try and please everyone.

    1. Focus on What You Can Control

    There are a lot of things you can't control about the holidays. You may be subjected to Christmas music in the waiting room of your doctor's office or you may overhear others at school constantly talking about their holiday plans. While you can't prevent those things from happening, there are some things you can control.

    Think about what you can do to lessen the heartache when you can. It's OK to limit your decorations or shop for presents online only. Pick a few things you can do to assert some control over the holiday cheer and keep in mind, that life goes on for other people and it's OK that they're happy to celebrate this year.

    1. Plan Ahead

    Often, the anticipation over how hard something is going to be is worse than the actual event. So while Christmas dinner may only last two hours, you could easily spend three weeks dreading it. Create a simple plan for how you'll get through the holidays to avoid extending your anguish.

    1. Allow Yourself to Feel a Range of Emotions

    The holidays can bring about a wide range of emotions. You might feel joy, guilt, and sadness all within a few minutes. Allow yourself to feel those emotions without judging yourself or thinking you should be happy or you shouldn't be laughing.

    1. Find a Way to Honor Your Memories

    Create a special way to memorialize the person you've lost. Whether you decide to light a candle every night or eat your loved one's favorite food, honoring your loved one can serve as a tangible reminder that although your loved on is gone, the love never dies.

    1. Create New Traditions

    Don't be afraid to create new traditions this year too. It's OK to get creative and do something a little out of the ordinary. You can also alter old traditions and make them fit better with the new phase in your life.

    1. Do Something Kind for Others

    Even when you're in the midst of grief, you still have something to offer the world. Performing a few acts of kindness can be really good for the grieving spirit. Donate gifts to families in need, serve meals at a soup kitchen, or volunteer to help people at a nursing home make holiday crafts if you're up for it.

    1. Ask for Help


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    EVENING COUNSELING SERVICES THROUGH BISD ARE currently accepting new clients.
    An evening counseling program for students, employees, and families who have no insurance and who are financially unable to access services in the community.
    Issues of Concern
    • drug addiction
    • school behaviors
    • anger
    • suicidal thoughts
    • physical abuse
    • family conflict/divorce
    • eating disorders
    • sexual abuse


    The Birdville Independent School District Guidance Counseling Services sponsors an evening counseling program for employees, students and families who have no insurance and who are financially unable to access services in the community.

    This service is offered for our students, employees and families who are in crisis, whether through personal choices, or circumstances beyond their control, including those areas related to school performance such as academics and attendance.

    Campus counselors are the referral contacts for employees and families who are in need of this service. BISD school counselors who are state licensed practitioners facilitate this service. The sessions are held at the Shannon Learning Center on Monday through Thursday evenings from 5:00-9:00 p.m.

    Funding for this program is provided by money from Medicaid and the BISD Wellness Fund. Families pay $10.00 per session.

    For more information, contact Ms. Tate @ 817-547-7080.


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    Guidance and Counseling Administrative Office
    6125 East Belknap
    Haltom City, Texas 76117

    Phone (817) 547-5780
    Fax (817) 547-5530
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